It has been a rollercoaster of emotion as some deep healing is coming up. There have been many articles about these things. It is always our own free will choice to look at things or not to. There are many different ways to help us through these intense times, but finding one that works for you is most important.
Personal awareness plays a key role in finding what works for you. If someone tells you to surrender to what is, most don’t have any idea what that really is. You may know what the words mean but not have the ability to feel the depth of what that statement actually says, and that’s ok! I am going to explain it a little. It is what it is, or it is what it is, because it can’t be anything else. Said another way I will not fight with what is, cause I am not going to argue with reality. There is a little piece of this statement that can prevent people from surrendering to what is. The trick to being able to do this is you will need to look at the situation from all sides, all perspectives in a completely non-judgental way. This is difficult to do because things that require surrender are often situations we are directly involved and have an emotional connection to.
Other advice people like to give is “Let it go.” But how, that is the real question. The response I see is it’s not that easy. No, it is not. I am not going to tell you it is. Cut cords. YES. But what goes along with that is mentally telling yourself that you are releasing yourself from the situation. And well, often times once is not enough. The way I think of it is that every time the situation pops into my head then I am making a cord, so I will need to release myself again. And I do it! “I release myself from this situation for my highest good and the highest good of all.” It is also easier to do when you can look at it again, non-judgmentally. See and learn from the situation. Then begins the healing and eventual growing. You will end up looking at this situation again, with this method as well.
Another way is radical forgiveness. If you arent able to accept the situation, see it non-judgmentally, keep on top of cutting cords or any other way then forgive yourself for not being able to. “I forgive myself for not being able to let this situation go.” Being compassionate also includes our self or our compassion is incomplete. I am not going to tell you this absolves you from learning from the situation but it will give you peace, and an opportunity to look at it in the future when you are not so emotionally connected to it. This is also a way to surrender to what is.
It is important that you find what works for you and awareness of self and others is a good start. Clarity is also a great tool for helping you see things as they are. And definitely these things will help you begin to be a master of self, cause after all the only thing you control is yourself. What you think, what you say and what you do. Do you react or respond to life.